re 16: I think that sometimes the phrase "coping strategy" gets given a lot of negative weight that it really shouldn't have. I mean, having a coping strategy is good! Obviously some strategies are better -- more successful, more functional, more fun-- than others, but I have long felt that "growing up" doesn't mean getting over our shit nearly so much as it means learning to manage it better, and having a coping strategy that works for you is excellent.
re 18: "religious but not spiritual," hee.
re 19 and 20: I have occasionally realized only after the fact that two people (or characters, or whatever) have the same name. The names were spelled differently, so although of course I knew they sounded the same, I didn't really connect them in my head! If they're not spelled the same, they're not the same, says my text-obsessed brain.
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re 16: I think that sometimes the phrase "coping strategy" gets given a lot of negative weight that it really shouldn't have. I mean, having a coping strategy is good! Obviously some strategies are better -- more successful, more functional, more fun-- than others, but I have long felt that "growing up" doesn't mean getting over our shit nearly so much as it means learning to manage it better, and having a coping strategy that works for you is excellent.
re 18: "religious but not spiritual," hee.
re 19 and 20: I have occasionally realized only after the fact that two people (or characters, or whatever) have the same name. The names were spelled differently, so although of course I knew they sounded the same, I didn't really connect them in my head! If they're not spelled the same, they're not the same, says my text-obsessed brain.