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Dira Sudis ([personal profile] dira) wrote2016-03-24 08:57 am

Assorted conversations at the funeral

So the main thing about the two days I just spent at my grandmother's funeral observances is that it was the first big family gathering I was present for after telling my parents and siblings that I'm quitting my job this spring to write full time and relocating to Chicagoland to be closer to my family (Iulia, mainly, but it does also shave an hour or two off the drive to Michigan).

So this made the "So what's new with you?" conversations REALLY fun.

Guy Cousin R (Late 30s, good friend of Brother #2):

Me: Well, I'm moving to Chicago. No, not for a library job, I'm quitting my library job and I'll be writing full time.
R: Oh, wow! What do you write?
Me (having considered the simplest way to explain this without encouraging anyone to actually read them): Trashy romance novels, self-published on Amazon.
R (grinning, entertained): So, smut?
Me: Yeah, pretty much. It's surprisingly lucrative!

Uncle D (R's stepfather, who married my aunt when I was a teenager):

Uncle D: Hey, come here! (Tows me into the hall; this is to my knowledge possibly the second actual conversation I have ever had just with him.) I hear you're a writer!
Me: Uh, yeah, as a hobby for a long time, and I just started self-publishing last year.
Uncle D: That is so great! I had no idea you were a writer, I've never known a writer before!
Me: (Briefly contemplates the fact that Uncle D is himself a working artist and the only creative professional I knew of when I was a kid, and when I was in grade school I interviewed him for a "what I want to be when I grow up" report because 'artist' was the closest I could get to 'writer' and maybe I should tell him all of that. Total fail in the face of his slightly terrifying earnest enthusiasm.)
Uncle D: So where is your stuff, how can I buy it?
Me: Uh, well, it's on Amazon, but it's... romance...
Uncle D: Oh, wow! How does that work?
Me: (Starts to explain the mechanics of self-publishing)
Uncle D: Oh, so you don't go through a publisher or anything? Wow, I had no idea that was possible! You know, that's how that Martian guy got started--
Me: YES, ISN'T THE MARTIAN GREAT? LET'S TALK ABOUT THE MARTIAN

Uncle D (After we have exhausted the topic of The Martian and how great it is): So you really don't want me to read your stuff?
Me: It's, uh, it's just not your genre. But with writing full time, maybe I'll be able to also write some stuff that would be a little more... mainstream.
Uncle D: Yeah! Let me know! That's so great!
Me: (finally flees to bathroom)

Cousin J (Early 40s, engineer married to an engineer, mother of three):

Me: ("moving to Chicago" "writing full time" "trashy romances")
Cousin J: Wow, that's cool! You know, K (her 11-year-old daughter) likes to write. She wrote this whole thing in notebooks and she's just started typing it up, and--I don't know anything, it's, uh--it's called--
Me: (Aww, K writes fanfic that's adorable)
Cousin J: Fanfiction? Is that...?
Me: Yeah, yeah, I've written my fair share of that. (Trying to think of what fandom is probably big with tweens) Is there are thing she writes it about?
Cousin J: Harry Potter...?
Me: Yep, yeah, there's a lot of that.
Cousin J: And there's something else... Hey, K! (Beckons 11-year-old over to us) Hey, Cousin Dira writes books, and I was just telling her you do too.
K: I don't write books.
Me: No, no, fanfic.
K: (blank look, then) Fan fiction.
Cousin J (still cheerfully enthusiastic): Yeah, you have that thing you write--you showed me that website where you upload--
Me: (Aww, I hope K's on the AO3 and not...)
K: fanfiction dot net.
Me: (Oh, kids. Bless.)

Brother #2 (in the car on the way to the actual funeral):

Me: ...So there's no cover art or anything yet, but the vampire book is coming out July 20. The ebook is actually available for pre-order, but the paperback isn't yet.
Brother #2: Well, I don't think I'm gonna read it, but I'll definitely buy a copy and display it proudly.
Me: (<3)
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[personal profile] minim_calibre 2016-03-24 03:34 pm (UTC)(link)
Could be worse. Could be Wattpad.

(Anonymous) 2016-03-24 04:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Fanfiction dot net. ::snorts::

(it's Maj, but I'm posting from work)
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[personal profile] princessofgeeks 2016-03-24 05:45 pm (UTC)(link)
\o/
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[personal profile] spikedluv 2016-03-24 06:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Haha at "fanFICTION". Oh, dear, ff.net.

Love your brother's comment. *g*
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[personal profile] gwyn 2016-03-24 07:01 pm (UTC)(link)
Hey, displaying proudly also serves! That's…yeah, those are definitely conversations. :-D
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[personal profile] sholio 2016-03-24 07:09 pm (UTC)(link)
haha. I have been having assorted awkward versions of this conversation also. "Trashy romance, you know, like Harlequin? *RAPID CHANGE OF SUBJECT*" seems to be the only escape. Then you have things like my dad, having been told by my sister, GOING TO AMAZON ON HIS WORK COMPUTER AND SHOWING ALL HIS COWORKERS. And then relaying all their baffled-shocked reactions to me. Damn it, Dad, this is why I don't tell you things!
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[personal profile] the_shoshanna 2016-03-24 07:37 pm (UTC)(link)
Brother #2 has good taste in cousin-friends! And sisters.
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[personal profile] mmegaera 2016-03-24 08:14 pm (UTC)(link)
This all sounds very familiar, although I did not have these conversations at a funeral.
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[personal profile] staranise 2016-03-24 09:30 pm (UTC)(link)
To be fair, in many fandoms I get way more and way more supportive feedback on FF.N than AO3.
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[personal profile] cofax7 2016-03-25 05:18 am (UTC)(link)
I would say those are some pretty good conversations!
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[personal profile] gingicat 2016-03-26 12:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, family. (And now I'm going to go look you up on Amazon and toss money in your direction...)
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[personal profile] everbright 2016-03-26 11:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, not completely excruciating then. I could have gone worse!
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[personal profile] eleanor_lavish 2016-03-31 11:45 am (UTC)(link)
Lordy, Olivia Circe and I had both our parents at the same brunch this Sunday, and they both totes know about our writing and our proclivities, and STILL THESE SOUND SO FAMILIAR. Also, I may tell my mother about your plan, so she knows I don't have to write more mainstream stuff to get people to like it, but I also may not, because she has ~dreams~ of me quitting my job to write, and since I am NOWHERE NEAR as prolific as you are (YOU ARE AMAZING HOLY SHIT), I am happy in hobby land.

All this is to say, your family sounds great, and also WELL DONE in terms of sidestepping all the impossible-to-explain-to-uncles portions of your new career. AND YAY NEW CAREER!!